Are you worn out? Do you feel depleted? Many of us are exhausted because we have been running on empty for way too long. Every day, life has us pressed up against the edge. We have very little margin and we just aren’t sure how much longer we can keep it up. We know that we are not keeping healthy boundaries but we aren’t sure how to change. Does this sound like you? If you need to get yourself unstuck and move forward to establish and maintain margin and balance, one of the best things you can do is to examine your emotional health. It is the driving force behind your mindset and decision-making process.
Emotional health is shaped and expressed by things like your:
- Ability to differentiate yourself from other people’s expectations
- Understanding of how your past has shaped your present
- Ability to express your feelings and your heart’s desires
- Dynamics of your family of origin
- Where you get your sense of value and worth
- How you confront those who have hurt you
My first experience learning about my emotional health and Emotionally Healthy Spirituality was in 2008 as I read Pete Scazzero’s book The Emotionally Healthy Church. At the time, I was a solo pastor of a church that was just beginning the journey of being in an intimate relationship with Jesus. It was an exciting time. People were growing. Lives were changing. But I was worn thin. In the name of growing everyone else’s relationship with Jesus, I put mine on the back burner. As I began to look at my own spiritual growth I started to examine my emotional development as well and discovered that in many ways, I still had a long way to go!
How did I figure that out? I gained this insight by taking the Emotionally Healthy Spirituality Assessment. This is a powerful tool that reveals the true state of your emotional health and it only takes about 15 minutes to complete. You can take it too by clicking HERE.
After you learn more about the reality of your emotional health, I would recommend reading Emotionally Healthy Spirituality and/or The Emotionally Healthy Leader. These resources have had the greatest impact on my life and leadership and I continue to go back to them again and again. You can also dive into any of the resources that they offer to churches that desire to create disciples who are spiritually and emotionally mature by visiting emotionallyhealthy.org.
The first step to filling up your tank and making decisions that create and maintain healthy rhythms in life, starts with knowing and growing your emotional health. So go ahead, dive beneath the surface! It is a journey well worth it!